Abused-are we animals or people

I just love animals, dogs, cats, horses, you name it, if it's furry and soft, I love it! They don't hurt your feelings, they keep all your secrets, and most of all they love you unconditionally. They know when your happy or sad and will sit at your bed side watching over you when your sick. I have even heard of dogs that know when your going to have a seizure, and they alert you so you don't hurt yourself. In return for this unconditional love and devotion, all you have to do is feed them food, water, and give a little attention once in a while thus giving you a friend for a life time. Yet I have seen dogs who don't get one ounce of attention and are treated so  bitterly nasty by their owner and still the animal licks his hand. But sooner or later if you push that animal into a corner with no way to get away from the pain of his beating, the animal will snap and turn on the abuser, in some cases leaving the abuser for dead.
  I think that's part of what this blog is about. I got so tired of holding in the pain, feeling trapped and scared and I couldn't get free from the past abuse. I could no longer lick the hand of my abuser that kicked me and pounded me for so many years.
   The abuser doesn't' see you as a person they see you as the junk yard dog if you will. If you beat the animal it more than not, he will obey, but on the other hand if you reward  they also will  learn to obey , does the animal that has been asked to roll over for the treat, resent you, no of course not. Does he enjoy it. No he enjoys the treat.  When you ask him to roll over and you beat him until he does it, what is the out come? Simple, he does it out of fear! he learns it's easier to obey then be beaten,  thus he learned the trick. He does it out of habit and fear, non the less he learned the trick.  With the treat he still learned the behavior and the trainer also got what he wanted, so end result was the same. Does the animal  enjoy rolling over on command? Interesting question, the answer is No he does not, the trainer merely  manipulated a natural behavior and twisted it to get what he or she wanted on command. Then they delude themselves into thinking the animal enjoys the attention.Trust me that dog would be much happier running after the cat!
    We have a tendency to want to please our abuser, It's called survivor mode, we learn very quickly to survive, just like the dog being trained, by doing what he or she wanted us to do out of fear of being punished. Either we got beat, or we didn't get the treat, either way it is a manipulation and an assault of an innocent mind and body for which the abuser had no right. We are not animals, we are human beings with a heart and a brain who trusted that authority to guide us, and care for us, not to abuse us!
   Don't kid yourself into thinking somehow you were guilty, because plain and simply your not. Did you enjoy jumping threw hoops, I think not ! You were manipulated into doing what your abuser wanted, no matter which method he used, it was still abuse, he took away your free will and got what he wanted.   No way will I feel guilty any longer about telling of my story, I have nothing to feel guilty about. I was a child who was trained to roll over out of fear and anguish. He stole a piece of my innocence. Today I am taking that piece back! I didn't give it, it was taken from me!